Self-mutilation

[AlcTrCKaD]

in other words....cutting.
I happen to know a lot of people who do it and some are extremely close friends. They arent too suicidal about it, but it is like a personal therapy to take all the pain of life and concentrate it into one thing. Wether it be a razor blade, scissors, pins, or knives, its pain expressed in a different way. But, like it may sound, I am in no way premoting this act. I know from personal experiance how hard it is to stop and why you started in the first place you never know. So please share your thoughts on this common act in most young people. (10-25) around those ages are most common.....so yea.

[Neon]

I think there are better ways to deal with the "pain."

[Dying-Living-Imortal]

in other words....cutting.
I happen to know a lot of people who do it and some are extremely close friends. They arent too suicidal about it, but it is like a personal therapy to take all the pain of life and concentrate it into one thing. Wether it be a razor blade, scissors, pins, or knives, its pain expressed in a different way. But, like it may sound, I am in no way premoting this act. I know from personal experiance how hard it is to stop and why you started in the first place you never know. So please share your thoughts on this common act in most young people. (10-25) around those ages are most common.....so yea.

oh like you should be talking A.....

[AlcTrCKaD]

Shut up Dylan....jackass

[protector13]

Shut up Dylan....jackass

yea i agree with ehr shut up any way about this yall r friking stupid if u mutil8 urself no offence

[morgan_1216]

i think people do it cuz its convient. i mean every one has some type of sharp thing laying around. its deffinately not smart but most ways people "deal" with their pain isn't. any one who does it on their wrists is just begging for attention because thats an obviously visible spot. the only reason some one should ever cut there is if they want to commit suicide. otherwise they're just attention whores. and dont think im totally bashing cutters i have family that used to cut. never done it myself...well not exactly. but taken it into consideration.

[Sweetie2393]

It's really not a good thing to do, you can really hurt yourself.
I saw this one show, or something I dont know, and this lady had cut herself for so long her arm was all messed up.
There are other was, like theropy and stuff.
Thats what I have to do cause I'm so stressed, only at school though, my mom thinks I'm weird and is trying to get me another theripist, but I would never cut cause I hate pain....
Anyway, go to theropy instead of cutting.

[FrankieGlamRock]

this may sound mean/harsh/unthoughtfull but i say just grow up! there are other ways to deal with Pain than cutting and i KNOW i dont know there problems or anything but damn if its that bad see a therapist (sp?) and if you dont have the money...you know your friends make great ones. so just talk to someone trust worthy and quit cutting.

Disclamer: the word "you" is meaing in a general consept

[dark_angel_56]

in other words....cutting.
I happen to know a lot of people who do it and some are extremely close friends. They arent too suicidal about it, but it is like a personal therapy to take all the pain of life and concentrate it into one thing. Wether it be a razor blade, scissors, pins, or knives, its pain expressed in a different way. But, like it may sound, I am in no way premoting this act. I know from personal experiance how hard it is to stop and why you started in the first place you never know. So please share your thoughts on this common act in most young people. (10-25) around those ages are most common.....so yea.
thats.....dumb
why, oh why? why cutting.....they might as well chop thier fingers and toes off.......-.-''

[Ravenheart]

You people have no idea what you're talking about.

Cutting isn't a self-pity thing. It isn't done with detachment just as a means of coping. It isn't looked at methodically and decided to be the best option. It's an impulse, a need to force your brain to focus on something besides raging emotion, be it anger or depression. Have any of you ever cut? Ever felt the desire to? I think not. So don't sit in judgement of what you don't understand.

I used to be a cutter. I'm bipolar. Now I'm on meds to keep me from being so overwhelmed by emotion that I need to resort to pain to make myself think straight again.

It's never a good option. But stop talking like it's something people do offhandedly.

[AlcTrCKaD]

I Agree With Ravenheart!!!

[angelgirl1419]

I also agree with Ravenheart.

Its a certain way that person handles their problems...they cannot help it.

You think that they actuelly like harming themselves? That they get a kick out of it? No. Absolutly not.

[AlcTrCKaD]

Only people with freaking issues do it for the kick......now thats not right

[angelgirl1419]

Exactly. Harming yourself for fun which alot of people do, and claim they get a "high" from it, is a totally different story for cutting. Now, i'm not going to say that it is sick to harm oneself for fun, because everyone is different.

[Neon]

Does it necessarily have to be "cutting?"
Are there not other ways to hurt yourself?

[angelgirl1419]

Of course there are other ways. Like, havn't you ever gotten really angry, and punched a hole in the wall?

Ok, maby not you personally, but its not like you've never heard of seen it.

Cutting just happens to be the most universal I suppose.

[Neon]

I see, not once, people here have used other examples of hurting themselves. They always refer to, "cutting." Leading me to believe it's just the common stereotype. Either way I believe there are better ways of dealing with the pain, when feeling depressed, the best way to get help is talking to someone (it doesn't matter who.) Because once in a while, we need someone to listen.

[Ravenheart]

Cutting's become the general term. Me, if I lose it now (which takes a VERY dire extreme) something gets punched. Like my wall, for example... until I found the wall that has the chimney behind it. My whole arm was bruised for a couple months.

I also know a girl who burns, another person who hits herself with stuff... the list goes on.

[angelgirl1419]

Exactly. Everyone has different ways of dealing with their problems, and how they deal with them is their buissiness.

Me, i'm a chronic crier, and I throw things. If I get mad, and have say a bottle in my hand.(this is a true story)it goes flying. And if I get really upset, watch out, because here come the water works.

Make fun of me if you will.^_^But those are my own ways...

[AlcTrCKaD]

http://s123.photobucket.com/albums/o320/AlcTrCKaD/?action=view&current=new011.jpg

this girl cuts...does she look like she does?

[AlcTrCKaD]

how about her?

http://s123.photobucket.com/albums/o320/AlcTrCKaD/?action=view&current=new020.jpg

[AlcTrCKaD]

I didnt think so

[Kyrin]

yea i agree with ehr shut up any way about this yall r friking stupid if u mutil8 urself no offence

Excuse me. Have you ever felt so fu.cking bad about everything that you are and live for that you want to give up? That no one would give a da.mn anyways? Then shut the fu.ck up.

And learn how to type, spell and use proper grammar.

[Kyrin]

You people have no idea what you're talking about.

Cutting isn't a self-pity thing. It isn't done with detachment just as a means of coping. It isn't looked at methodically and decided to be the best option. It's an impulse, a need to force your brain to focus on something besides raging emotion, be it anger or depression. Have any of you ever cut? Ever felt the desire to? I think not. So don't sit in judgement of what you don't understand.

I used to be a cutter. I'm bipolar. Now I'm on meds to keep me from being so overwhelmed by emotion that I need to resort to pain to make myself think straight again.

It's never a good option. But stop talking like it's something people do offhandedly.

Thank you for explaining that in a coherent way I can't. I'd have gotten pissy like I did ^up there^.

[AlcTrCKaD]

Excuse me. Have you ever felt so fu.cking bad about everything that you are and live for that you want to give up? That no one would give a da.mn anyways? Then shut the fu.ck up.

And learn how to type, spell and use proper grammar.

i know....
Cutting is not feeling bad for yourself, people dont hurt from the cutting...they hurt from the saddness. I am one of those girls...and I am trying so hard. But it isnt easy. I know. But i have a friend who supports me....more than my parents do. She is my reason for living.

[Kyrin]

i know....
Cutting is not feeling bad for yourself, people dont hurt from the cutting...they hurt from the saddness. I am one of those girls...and I am trying so hard. But it isnt easy. I know. But i have a friend who supports me....more than my parents do. She is my reason for living.

I know (as much as another person can) how you feel. Don't give up. I've gone about a month and a half, and especially now it's been hard. Hang in there. You can do it. I have a friend like that, too.

[AlcTrCKaD]

thanks. My record is 6 days....and those days about killed me. But thanks to her, I am doing pretty good. I have gone three so far and working on my fourth....i will make it.

[Kyrin]

thanks. My record is 6 days....and those days about killed me. But thanks to her, I am doing pretty good. I have gone three so far and working on my fourth....i will make it.

Good. I haven't done stuff like that for very long- I've done other things due to the lack of anything sharp until recently- and it was hard, but I got it kind of...switched over, in a way...to that, and then since I haven't done it so long, I guess it was easier. If you need someone to listen or anything, I know you've talked to me like once ever, but feel free to PM me. Sometimes it helps to talk to people you don't know about things, so it doesn't matter if they judge you or not- I won't, and at least for me, talking to strangers who'll listen helps sometimes.

[AlcTrCKaD]

Good. I haven't done stuff like that for very long- I've done other things due to the lack of anything sharp until recently- and it was hard, but I got it kind of...switched over, in a way...to that, and then since I haven't done it so long, I guess it was easier. If you need someone to listen or anything, I know you've talked to me like once ever, but feel free to PM me. Sometimes it helps to talk to people you don't know about things, so it doesn't matter if they judge you or not- I won't, and at least for me, talking to strangers who'll listen helps sometimes.

thanks...that means a lot ta me

[Kyrin]

thanks...that means a lot ta me

Anytime. I'll do my best to respond right away if you do.

[NinjaMouse]

I know exactly how it feel to want to cut I've done it and piad the consequences with the scares... I punch walls now which belive it or not are more damaging then cutting, I dont' surpport it but I know some people have to do it's like an equations in ways you do it to lose some pain. BEcause well talking dosent' work all the time. This is just so random forgive my un grammical paragagrpah and bad spelling.

[KitsuneNoKoi]

I'm not saying that all people who cut are bad,ut seriously....most of them DO fit that stereotypical crap.Cutting isn't the only way to "relieve the pain of living" or some crap.We all want to give up at a point in our life,cutting doesn't do a thing.Yeah,it may seem that you're doing yourself no harm,but you are.I don't mean in that whole..."It's dangerous",but life is going to get tougher.I'm only at that hormonal stage in my life and I'm dealing with alot of friend,family,and school issues-but cutting hasn't even been considered.Why?Simple.I know that life will get harder and giving up doesn't do anything.
Some people who cut actually do it and don't care if anyone sees,I can slightly respect them.But,there are people who do it because they DO want attention.
Again,I'm not saying that people who cut themselves are terrible people,I do have friends who do/did it.However,I'm not even close to feeling sorry for them for that.I still respect them,but...I highly disagreed with that descion they made and I would NEVER pity them because they've gone through hard times.
And Lin,I know you have it in you:TYPE GRAMMATICALLY ACCURATE!

[*Naylie_Emo*]

I was Emo before...But not enymore..
I dont know why i could me *Naylie_emo*
I just like the name..I cutting my self tow times and so i stopped.
I'm glad fore that.

[Ravenheart]

Didn't you hear me? It's not about ending the pain or oh-woe-is-me. It's a distraction, and a last-ditch mental defense.

[Neon]

I'm not saying that all people who cut are bad,ut seriously....most of them DO fit that stereotypical crap.Cutting isn't the only way to "relieve the pain of living" or some crap.We all want to give up at a point in our life,cutting doesn't do a thing.Yeah,it may seem that you're doing yourself no harm,but you are.I don't mean in that whole..."It's dangerous",but life is going to get tougher.I'm only at that hormonal stage in my life and I'm dealing with alot of friend,family,and school issues-but cutting hasn't even been considered.Why?Simple.I know that life will get harder and giving up doesn't do anything.
Some people who cut actually do it and don't care if anyone sees,I can slightly respect them.But,there are people who do it because they DO want attention.
Again,I'm not saying that people who cut themselves are terrible people,I do have friends who do/did it.However,I'm not even close to feeling sorry for them for that.I still respect them,but...I highly disagreed with that descion they made and I would NEVER pity them because they've gone through hard times.
And Lin,I know you have it in you:TYPE GRAMMATICALLY ACCURATE!


That's what she said.

[angelgirl1419]

I'm not saying that all people who cut are bad,ut seriously....most of them DO fit that stereotypical crap.Cutting isn't the only way to "relieve the pain of living" or some crap.We all want to give up at a point in our life,cutting doesn't do a thing.Yeah,it may seem that you're doing yourself no harm,but you are.I don't mean in that whole..."It's dangerous",but life is going to get tougher.I'm only at that hormonal stage in my life and I'm dealing with alot of friend,family,and school issues-but cutting hasn't even been considered.Why?Simple.I know that life will get harder and giving up doesn't do anything.
Some people who cut actually do it and don't care if anyone sees,I can slightly respect them.But,there are people who do it because they DO want attention.
Again,I'm not saying that people who cut themselves are terrible people,I do have friends who do/did it.However,I'm not even close to feeling sorry for them for that.I still respect them,but...I highly disagreed with that descion they made and I would NEVER pity them because they've gone through hard times.
And Lin,I know you have it in you:TYPE GRAMMATICALLY ACCURATE!


I don't think you guys are getting the point...

Cutting isn't a "hobby" I wen't over the whole thing where people harm themselves for fun, is a totally different thing than cutting yourself to relieve pain.

Of course everyone goes through pain, and how, and where they rid themselves of it is their perogative and their buissiness. Cutting isn't used to gain sympathy. You think people want to be ridiculed for it? You think they would harm themselves if they had someother way of getting rid of the pain that works for them?

You said you have friends that do it, and claim that they do it for attention, just let me ask you a question: Are you with them every day of their life? Do you know what they go through?

I personally don't cut, but I can still symathize with those that do. Because I can put myself in their shoes, and I realize that peoples lives are hard, and that sometimes they can't handle it.

I personally aplaud you for being able to handle your problems as you claim to, but not everyone is like that. Thats what you need to understand.

[Nickoli]

I think most of you who say cutting is terrible have never been there. Not to say you have never felt pain.

But those people who cut, burn, starve, or hurt themselves in any way - Not for attention, or because its "cool" - are trying to cope.

The only way I can try to describe this is to use personal experience. So its a bit of story time:

I was sexually abused for nine years by my older brother, starting when I was five years old. I never told anyone until this year. I was also assulted three times after that by two different people. I blamed myself, and went through a lot of things. I have manic depression, am bipolar, have psychosis and OCD. I felt I had to punish myself for allowing myself to become the victum.

None of these things were ment to be attention seeking. For the most part, people who do SI (self injury) are trying to hide it. It is a way to take control of one part of their life.

By no means am I trying to promote SI to ANYONE, I am merely trying to help others understand the mentality.

Please do not lable all SIers as posers or pathetic wimps who cannot deal with emotional pain.

If anyone is looking for ways to stop the cycle of SI, by the way, feel free to let me know, wether its by IM or whatever, because I have sites you might be intrested in.

[Ravenheart]

God Bless You, Nickoli.

[Nickoli]

people who cut themselves just want attention:eek:

Did you not read what I posted?

[angelgirl1419]

people who cut themselves just want attention:eek:

Exactly. Did you read what Nickoli posted? Or what Ravenheart and I posted? I really don't understand why you people don't get it...its getting frustrating.

[neurotic_nerd]

there are other reasons people cut and stuff.. some people do it cause of habit or because it feels good. there are other self mutilation/destruction habits. i should know. i have one of them.

[Nickoli]

there are other reasons people cut and stuff.. some people do it cause of habit or because it feels good. there are other self mutilation/destruction habits. i should know. i have one of them.

That is true. That is something I forgot to mention. Sadomasachism.

Enjoying the feel of pain, reacting differently to it.

Like me.

[neurotic_nerd]

That is true. That is something I forgot to mention. Sadomasachism.

Enjoying the feel of pain, reacting differently to it.

Like me.

and me.

i pluck the hairs out of my knuckles(upper and lower), hands, elbows, knees, ankles,feet, toes, and eyebrows. it feels good to me. i have tried to stop but its like smoking. i start doing it w/o thinking and i ccant think if i havent plucked something in a while. although i now have 2 diff sized eyebrows...

[Ravenheart]

That's actually more like nail-biting. Some people rip their own hair, too, without even realizing they're doing it.

[KitsuneNoKoi]

I don't think you guys are getting the point...

Cutting isn't a "hobby" I wen't over the whole thing where people harm themselves for fun, is a totally different thing than cutting yourself to relieve pain.

Of course everyone goes through pain, and how, and where they rid themselves of it is their perogative and their buissiness. Cutting isn't used to gain sympathy. You think people want to be ridiculed for it? You think they would harm themselves if they had someother way of getting rid of the pain that works for them?

You said you have friends that do it, and claim that they do it for attention, just let me ask you a question: Are you with them every day of their life? Do you know what they go through?

I personally don't cut, but I can still symathize with those that do. Because I can put myself in their shoes, and I realize that peoples lives are hard, and that sometimes they can't handle it.

I personally aplaud you for being able to handle your problems as you claim to, but not everyone is like that. Thats what you need to understand.

I never said they did it for attention,and I never said that all people who do it just want attention.I just think there are better ways of dealing with problems-but there are some cases where it is hard to get attention of course,I would NEVER say they all did it for attention.

[angelgirl1419]

I didn't say that, you said they did it for attention either, I was just saying its harder for people to deal with their problems in other ways.

[unloved_forever]

People don't self harm because they feel sorry for themselves, it's a way of dealing with pain or whatever.
Also people don't do it for attention, as a hobby or as soemthing to just pass the time.
Cutting isn't the only way of self-mutilation/self harm, people also starve themselves and do many other things.

Sorry if any of thes points have been mentioned before, I just wanted to say my point.

[XoColorful-ChickoX]

Im Sorry But Most These Ppl Dont Know What They Is Talkin Bout!!!!!!! I Used To Be A Cutter And I Still Am Im Not Braggin I Just Cant Seem To Stop.....i Do Not Feel Sorry For Myself!!!

[unloved_forever]

Im Sorry But Most These Ppl Dont Know What They Is Talkin Bout!!!!!!! I Used To Be A Cutter And I Still Am Im Not Braggin I Just Cant Seem To Stop.....i Do Not Feel Sorry For Myself!!!
It's a hard thing to stop doing, especially when people say things like you do it for attention.

[Sceadu]

You people have no idea what you're talking about.

Cutting isn't a self-pity thing. It isn't done with detachment just as a means of coping. It isn't looked at methodically and decided to be the best option. It's an impulse, a need to force your brain to focus on something besides raging emotion, be it anger or depression. Have any of you ever cut? Ever felt the desire to? I think not. So don't sit in judgement of what you don't understand.

I used to be a cutter. I'm bipolar. Now I'm on meds to keep me from being so overwhelmed by emotion that I need to resort to pain to make myself think straight again.

It's never a good option. But stop talking like it's something people do offhandedly.
I'm bipolar too(not on any meds though). Although I've only cut a few times, I agree with you. I did it so I wouldn't hurt anyone else.
I can't say it was the smartest thing I've ever done, but at least I know to save that as a second to last resort now.
I'm sick of people making assumtions that if you cut, you're immediatly an "Emo" or a suicidial. Thats not always the case. Its only the more publicized reasons.

[Kyrin]

I think most of you who say cutting is terrible have never been there. Not to say you have never felt pain.

But those people who cut, burn, starve, or hurt themselves in any way - Not for attention, or because its "cool" - are trying to cope.

The only way I can try to describe this is to use personal experience. So its a bit of story time:

I was sexually abused for nine years by my older brother, starting when I was five years old. I never told anyone until this year. I was also assulted three times after that by two different people. I blamed myself, and went through a lot of things. I have manic depression, am bipolar, have psychosis and OCD. I felt I had to punish myself for allowing myself to become the victum.

None of these things were ment to be attention seeking. For the most part, people who do SI (self injury) are trying to hide it. It is a way to take control of one part of their life.

By no means am I trying to promote SI to ANYONE, I am merely trying to help others understand the mentality.

Please do not lable all SIers as posers or pathetic wimps who cannot deal with emotional pain.

If anyone is looking for ways to stop the cycle of SI, by the way, feel free to let me know, wether its by IM or whatever, because I have sites you might be intrested in.

The sites she has are very helpful. I'd definitely recommend asking her for them if you do SI, they made a difference to me, at least.

[angelgirl1419]

Glade you were able to get help, Kyrin. I only wish my friend would listen to me when I try to help her...care to share what those sites are, so I can give them to her?

[Kyrin]

Glade you were able to get help, Kyrin. I only wish my friend would listen to me when I try to help her...care to share what those sites are, so I can give them to her?

Nickoli has the sites, PM her. I hope they help. I really do.

[angelgirl1419]

Me too. Thanks again.

[protector13]

i did aan eraser thing to my hand hurts alot lol