My Best Friend just blew me off for her BF!

[Crazy_Anime_Punk]

This is the second time in a row! I'm so sick of this...

Any advice on what to do??

Everytime I try talking to her about it she gets mad at me. Lately they've just been all over each other. I can't even have a converstaion with her anymore.

[Crazy_Anime_Punk]

Wow...I actually thought people would try helping me...

[evanscense4]

that sucks!is this her first boyfriend?

[Crazy_Anime_Punk]

Haha thank you for replying. I thought no one would.

No she's had a lot. But just lately they have been inseperable..i haven't been to her house in weeks cuz he's always over.

[coeur]

My best advice is to just give them the space they want. Any couple that is self-contained to the point they start ignoring their friends will probably break up sooner rather than later. A couple needs to decide for themselves how they want to break up and use their time. Many newly-formed couples are all over each other and hole themselves away for days at a time without any outside contact. However, they'll soon grow tired of each other and become very annoyed by the lack of 'personal time.' An outsider can't force a couple to divide their time between their friends and each other; rather, a couple just needs to figure it out themselves.

My boyfriend and I are very close. We spend more than 5 hours a day together over meals and generally living together. However, I have always made it clear that I will never give up my friends for him and he has accepted that. Likewise, my friends accept that my boyfriend is a fixture in my life now and I might not be able to stay up until 4am listening to them complain about their ex-boyfriends. However, I had to sit both parties down and explain to them that 1) asking me to ignore my friends is signing their own death warrant and 2) my boyfriend is my boyfriend and he will be accepted as part of my life whether they like it or not.

Both parties have to give a little.

[FrankieGlamRock]

acctually its tottally normal

and she may not even realise what shes doing, she feels the need to be with him every moment so she is trying to do that

even if it means blowing you off

trust me im sure you do/will do it to with out even knowing.

[Crazy_Anime_Punk]

They've been going out for a year now. No sign of breaking up.

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[Crazy_Anime_Punk]

acctually its tottally normal

and she may not even realise what shes doing, she feels the need to be with him every moment so she is trying to do that

even if it means blowing you off

trust me im sure you do/will do it to with out even knowing.

Yeah it is. But she told me that if I ever felt like I was being ignored or something, I should tell her. I tell her and she gets offended.

[coeur]

They've been going out for a year now. No sign of breaking up.

=[

I think that there shouldn't be any reason to despair if she's happy with the arrangement. It could just be time to spend more time with other people. These things happen. Few people remain best friends forever.

[FrankieGlamRock]

then tell her that she said that and if she gets pissed tell her that its her loss.

it will hurt but it will help you find your true friends

[Crazy_Anime_Punk]

then tell her that she said that and if she gets pissed tell her that its her loss.

it will hurt but it will help you find your true friends

*sigh*

I've known her for 10 years...since I was 5.

:(

I'll try talking to her again if she ever calls me back like she said she would. It's already 10:00pm.

[FrankieGlamRock]

its the best thing that you can do really.

[Crazy_Anime_Punk]

Very true.

Thank you guys for all your help and advice! ♥

[wiccagwen]

my friend did the same
she was doing uhm... stuff hehe with her bf and she totally forgot about me
I was sick of it too and I talked with her about it, now she's on time xD

[girlie_punk_princess_3000]

Like other people before me have said. Call her or try your best to talk to her. No matter for how long a couple has been going out, neither party should sacrifice time with their friends and blow them off to spend time with their significant other. Family should come first, friends second, then relationships with other people.

One of my "best" friends and I have always been on the fritz for the past couple of years. But not over boyfriend issues, at least not mainly. She has told me before that I was her second choice for going somewhere when she told me she couldn't take anyone. Now she calls my sister all the time and only once in a "blue moon" calls me.

My mom once said to me, "Friends will come and go. It's a part of like and it stinks. But remember that your family will always be there for you." Or something similar to that.

I hope it all works out and that issues are resolved. Just remember- Be honest, express how you've been feelings and how her actions have been hurtful to you. If she still doesn't comprehend how it makes you feel when she ditches you, she wasn't your friend in the first place.

[Crazy_Anime_Punk]

Oh man. I just talked to her. He's going over there again. This is the 3rd time in a row she has blown me off. I tried talking to her about it and I got nothing. I am so hurt right now.

[Neon]

There is a time to let things happen, and there is a time to make things happen. Take action, do what is best for your emotions.

[Crazy_Anime_Punk]

There is a time to let things happen, and there is a time to make things happen. Take action, do what is best for your emotions.

like what?

[Neon]

Well, if I were to be in that situation, first off after the second time trying to talk to her and receiving no response, that would be a sign for me to not stay longer. In any kind of relationship both of you have to give, and I don't see that from her part. I would move on, I know it would be painful at first but that is how life is, I'd try to make new friends, find new hobbies, and go out a lot. Perhaps, chances are, when she has no shoulder to cry on, she will see her mistakes, and maybe just maybe, give you a call and say hi.

[Crazy_Anime_Punk]

*sigh* That's what everyone's been saying. =[

It's true though. Once they do break up she'll have no one. She's going to be very lonely.

[Kawaii Princess]

Yes that's happened to me plenty of time. Tell your best friend, because what happens is you get so angry about what she;'s ding youll end up talking less and less. Believe me...and you'll get more annoyed with her by just regular things...

[Crazy_Anime_Punk]

Yes that's happened to me plenty of time. Tell your best friend, because what happens is you get so angry about what she;'s ding youll end up talking less and less. Believe me...and you'll get more annoyed with her by just regular things...

That's what has been happening. I've been getting angry over silly little things but she never has my back for anything..And this time she just went too far.

[Kawaii Princess]

Yeah. I understand this actually recently happened to me, but we made up. You seriously need to talk to her. Hopefully your friend won't take it bratty like mine did.

[Autumn_Dawn93]

This happened to me too and it just so happens that he was cheating on her and he was acting like he just loved her and the were so inseperable so that she wouldn't suspect it.

[Crazy_Anime_Punk]

This happened to me too and it just so happens that he was cheating on her and he was acting like he just loved her and the were so inseperable so that she wouldn't suspect it.

Oh man that's bad. =[

[Crazy_Anime_Punk]

Yeah. I understand this actually recently happened to me, but we made up. You seriously need to talk to her. Hopefully your friend won't take it bratty like mine did.

I just talked to her and she definately took it like I was being the *****.. :mad:

[Rainbow Kisses]

I've been in that position before. I don't know if it works for anyone else, but I just never called my friend when she does this to me. I give her the cold shoulder.
And after a week, she cries and regrets for not listening to me, she got REALLY annoying, and later on we made up. I only give cold shoulders when things get really bad, but if you can't handle it, don't take this advice, lol.

[Crazy_Anime_Punk]

I've been in that position before. I don't know if it works for anyone else, but I just never called my friend when she does this to me. I give her the cold shoulder.
And after a week, she cries and regrets for not listening to me, she got REALLY annoying, and later on we made up. I only give cold shoulders when things get really bad, but if you can't handle it, don't take this advice, lol.

I've tried that. Might have to again. Thanks. =]

[Urbandale]

hun... look, she blew you off for her boyfriend, right? I'm not saying so what or anything, but its normal. In fact, if she does it once, she'll do it again. I'm not sayin it will be later on today, or even months from now, but those types of people tend to do that a lot.

Now, just because she blew you off a couple of times doesn't mean she doesn't like you anymore, thats just overreacting. She just wanted to hang out with her boyfriend right then instead of you. Is that a bad thing? No. Not really. As long as you guys still hang out, there's NOTHING wrong with that.

[jitsu]

this happen bbi...alot

[girlie_punk_princess_3000]

How many times has your friend ditched you for her boyfriend?

[Crazy_Anime_Punk]

How many times has your friend ditched you for her boyfriend?

So far 4 times.

[girlie_punk_princess_3000]

So far 4 times.

I think that just too many times, and that's just my opinion. Have they been happening pretty close together?

If you've known her for 10 years, she shouldn't be ditching you for a boyfriend. What she should do is set aside time for you and set aside time for her boyfriend.

If talking to her doesn't work, you could always go over her head and talk to her boyfriend. See if he can't talk to her about her behavior and that she should be spending time with her friends.