Yesterday's catastrophe.

[xxShyGrlxx]

I wish it was Sunday again..
I went to a Rick Springfield concert yesterday and it was amazing. Of course I had horrible seats but I still saw him.
But anyways, to the main point. I went to this resturant called Sushi Dumo..or Domo or something. It was awesome. Me, my mom and everyone else who came sat at the bar area. NO, I didn't drink. I had a sprite. xD
So, I ordered some really good Teryaki chicken.
Yum.
But..when the chefs came out to talk (Their were 3 or 4 of them)...
I fell in love with one of them.
He was so handsome.
Black hair with light brown highlights.
*sigh*
He was young too.
I was telling my mom that I thought he was cute.
And guess what?
He heard me!
He must have had good hearing because I f'ing whispered it!
He smiled at me, and pointed at me.
I blushed and looked away.
Then my grandma was like:
"He's pointing at you again, he's blushing too!"
Of course I was like:
"Oh gawwwdd."
And I was in one of those spiny chairs so I was spinning back and fourth nervously. I locked eyes with the chef and I was like, "...*blush*..."
Then when we left I was depressed because he lives in Rockville and I live in..Frederick! (Didn't tell you which one so HA!)
I wanted his number.
Sad thing is, I have a boyfriend (on this site).
Long distance.
He could read this.

What should I do?
Someone make me less depressed.
It's like Romeo and Juliet.
Sort of. -_-

[coeur]

Well first of all, how old are you? Can you drive a car? Can you even be sure the guy feels anything for you at all because, frankly, I don't have enough fingers and toes to count the number of men I've met in the past month who have flirted with me but I won't see again. Just because someone smiles at you doesn't mean he feels very deeply for you; after all, you probably smile at animals, small children, anime, etc. all the time but that doesn't mean you want to date them.

Second of all, you probably don't care too much about your boyfriend on this site because you posted a thread that would probably anger and upset him right under his nose. If you were really interested in keeping your boyfriend from getting hurt then you wouldn't have posted on this site. In that case, it seems you don't care much about your boyfriend anyway so maybe you should just break up with him?

[xxShyGrlxx]

Huh. I know what you said is all true. Surely he probably has a girlfriend, surely he's just making fun of me. Surely my mom's just trying to make me feel better about myself since I always put myself down. I am thirteen, but some are surprised to know that because on DW most people think I'm sixteen or older. Im not. I can be mature when I have to be.

Maybe I do care about him. But you do have a point. Maybe Im just a coward to tell him in a PM. I guess that's just what I have to do if he doesn't get to this first. I hate when my fingers work faster than my brain. I can't process anything right.

Thank you so much Coeur for setting things straight with me. I think I understand now. But still, Im young and I have a lot to learn. I'll still think that guy's cute even if he just smiled at me because I smiled at him.

[coeur]

Don't be so hard on yourself; I'm just saying people flirt with others even when they don't want to commit to a relationship. People can have sex and not want to commit to a relationship. My boyfriend thought I was sleeping with my best friend when he first met her because I flirt with her so often--we're very affectionate--but there's nothing between us. But it's okay to think people are cute when you're dating other people as long as you're considerate about the other person's feelings.

Thirteen is a really awkward age regardless of how mature you might act and most girls will take the affection where they can get it from the other sex. There is something within everyone that wants to receive attention from the gender we're sexually attracted to because it's a means of self-affirmation. It's not the healthiest thing in the world but it's just how our biology works--biologically speaking none of us are worth anything to the grand scheme of things if we don't reproduce.

Ultimately, however, it's all what we make of it and, it's not very apparent at the age of thirteen, but life extends a whole lot longer than anyone can expect. You'll have plenty of opportunities to meet good looking men from all kinds of different backgrounds as your life progresses.

On a lighter note: My friend and I are known to write our numbers down the receipts when we have a particularly hot waiter--of course, it's all in fun, but it's still sort of thrilling.

[xxShyGrlxx]

I know I shouldn't be hard on myself. But how can I not, I mean there are so many other goregous people out there when I feel like Im just another ugly unwanted person. A lot of people act like they don't want me here so it make's me put myself down like they do to me. I guess I'm just at the age were everything's getting difficult. Not to mention, schools almost over. Im panicking because of highschool. Im planning to become a firefighter and EMT. I have a lot to do, and not only that I want to find my true love. I know how stupid that sounds but, I'm just so envious of almost every couple out there. It's like I'm an older person stuck in a teen's body because I don't feel like I should have such feeling's at this age. Sometimes I wish I don't have feeling's at all.

I just hope things will get better as life progressess. I don't want to end up having a bad life and end up with the wrong person.

[NinjaMouse]

you know you dotn' have to find yoru true love riht off the bat you know. It might take you a few tries and you might makes many mistakes... well that's just mightbe me but that's a different story. If you didint' have feeling you woudl be a robot... not very fun to talk to or roleplay with. Remeber your still 13 you have yoru whole life ahead of you so take things one at a time you'll find it much easier then trying to do everythign at once.

[coeur]

The "true love" thing is pretty unlikely. I am in love and I love my boyfriend very much but both of us have loved other people very deeply before and it's generally acknowledged that one person can love multiple people in a lifetime. My boyfriend is the love of my life--so far--and, while I can't imagine life without him, I'm also not going to be unrealistic and believe I will never love anyone else if this relationship doesn't work out.

Our population is nearing 6 billion people so consider how unlikely it is to find just one person out of 6 billion.

But every girl wants to find true love; frankly, I was pretty sick of it all by the time I got to college and refused to date people until I was twenty despite various offers. And, after a certain point, you stop being jealous of other people's relationships after you've been in a serious relationship because serious relationships are a lot of work and cost a lot of money. My boyfriend spent over 100 dollars to visit me for one day over winter break (because our breaks are month-long). I am spending at least 450 dollars a month to be with him over the summer while working at an unpaid internship. It takes a lot of commitment to make things work over a long period of time.

As a rule of thumb being in a serious relationship with a thirteen-year-old girl will probably get most boys beaten up, grounded, or heavily-criticized. Not a lot of people want to invest a lot of commitment into a thirteen-year-old anyone because, well, many thirteen-year-old girls haven't even gotten their first periods yet. Biologically speaking, a thirteen-year-old person isn't physically mature enough to carry on a mature, romantic relationship. And sex does matter. It sounds terrible but sex is a part of a romantic relationship too and at least one person in the relationship will want to have some kind of sexual experience--and of course, for a thirteen-year-old sexual experiences are considered statutory rape. So it's a liability.

It's nothing personal, really, but being thirteen is sort of rough.

[xxShyGrlxx]

Yeah, I know that. If I atleast find someone who will treat me the way I like to be treated, I'll be happy.

I know that a lot of people in my school, around the age of thirteen date and it's just crazy. Also since were about to have a formal, everyone's just been asking everyone out and it's been hectic but whatever. I'm just sitting by the food table, like I always do. But beginning to speak of sex and all, now that just makes me a bit uncomfortable. I know that I'm to young for that, and of course Im not interested in it. I know my right's from wrongs and I am very aware of the situation's I put myself in.

Let's just hope fourteen's better than thirteen.

[NektariosATB]

wow.........